This is a follow-up to Episode 7, where I spoke with my friend Amanda, who talked about her grief following the deaths of her mother and father. If you haven’t heard that episode, hop back to get to know Amanda and her experiences.
In this episode, Amanda is filling the gaps in my grief knowledge. I don’t know what I’m not asking, since I haven’t been through this myself. It’s very easy for me to focus on the parts of death and dying that are very surface level – and that would pertain to me as a listener of someone’s story. Amanda is taking us behind the scenes of her story to talk about how she was with each of her parents when they died, how those processes were very much a part of her grief — and may be for many people.
As a bit of a trigger warning in this episode, Amanda does describe the moments and process leading up to her parents’ deaths. The stories are at a pretty high level — they aren’t graphic by any means — but anyone listening who has lost someone to cancer or a heart attack: it could be tough to relive it with her. ❤️💔❤️
As always – thank you for listening. If you have thoughts on this episode send them my way!
Or perhaps welcome back 🙂 I had a bit of an unintended hiatus — life just needs those sometimes — but I’m excited to be back with a few more episodes. Be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss any of them!
How has listening or sharing this podcast helped or affected you? It could be that you’re grieving for someone, or you felt comfortable approaching someone or asking a question… or something I wouldn’t have even expected! I’d love if you share your story by sending a recording or email to email@example.com – or find me on instagram or facebook @sorryforyourlosspod. THANKS in advance—I look forward to hearing from you!
Now on to this new episode with my friend Amanda. I thought of Amanda almost immediately for this podcast for two reasons: one, we’re of similar age and she has already lost both of her parents — which is unusual, and unfair, and unfortunate. But that also gives her exactly the perspective I wanted to understand.
The second reason is because she’s open and approachable about her parents. It was an easy topic to broach because by knowing Amanda as a friend, you’ll get to know Evangeline and Ron, gently and casually.
Amanda’s story is told in two parts: this episode focuses on similar themes to previous interviews: what her grief looked like, and what she’s realized she needed in the 16 years since her mom died, and 6 since her dad died, and advice on what TO do and absolutely NOT to do.
In the following episode, Amanda talks more about the process of losing both parents, and how those experiences absolutely shaped her grief and her life. It’s basically a different thing to grieve; the way your life can change so abruptly. It’s super good, and a piece of grief that I hadn’t realized existed.
As always thank you for listening, and thank you to Amanda for sharing.
References in this episode:
C.S. Lewis’ book, A Grief Observed
Sockentine’s Day – On Valentine’s Day, you send a pair of wacky socks to people you care about!
I sat down with my friend Greg, who I may or may not have coerced into being on this podcast after may or may not have had one or two or several pints between us.
The topic came up at all because I had made a “YOUR MOM!” joke. Greg’s response was perfect, he effortlessly and emphatically yelled back, “MY MOM’S DEAD!”
I was momentarily caught off guard, and then replied, “YOU SHOULD BE ON MY PODCAST!”
Which is maybe not the best response?
But as I’m learning about grief, and how to talk to people about their grief, I’ve learned it’s not actually a terrible response either! However it may rank on the appropriate-ness scale, Greg kindly agreed to be one of my first interviews.
Greg has some really great things to say about his experience with grief — his mother and father both died before he was 40 — and how it’s affected him since. And, he has insight about how you can support friends and coworkers in their moments of grief and beyond.
Hello and welcome to the first episode of Sorry For Your Loss podcast. Thanks for listening!
As mentioned in the previous post, this podcast idea came out of Holly and my’s shared experience with not understanding what to do after her dad died. So I’m really proud for this first episode to be an interview with her about her dad, Ernie.
We cover a whole range of topics, including how suicide changed her grieving process, how she handles conversations differently after losing a parent, how to listen when someone is grieving, and how you can’t get wrapped up in the “could haves” following the death of a loved one.
What we mentioned in this episode of Sorry For Your Loss:
Grief comes in waves, a comment from Reddit user u/GSnow on the thread, “My friend just died. I don’t know what to do.“
Grief Dinners – find a table or start a dinner in a city near you via The Dinner Party
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals. 1-800-273-8255