This Is Hard Because You Loved Them – An Interview with Christy, a Grief Counselor | Talking About Grief with Friends

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This Is Hard Because You Loved Them – An Interview with Christy, a Grief Counselor | Talking About Grief with Friends
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This episode is a break from the normal peer-to-peer interviews I’ve done previously. Today I’m talking with Christy Hansen, a grief counsellor at KC Hospice in Kansas City, Missouri. She sees people who are grieving literally every day, and graciously agreed to talk with me about grief! 

I think this interview is especially helpful to hear if you feel like you’re floundering a bit. I mean, Christy’s career is based around understanding how to react to people’s grief — so it makes sense she would have some really excellent suggestions on what to do or say. 

Her words left me feeling a lot more confident in how to reach out? A bit less awkward with admitting that I may not know what the right thing to say is. She really reiterates a point that I’ve heard over and over in these interviews — it’s the being there that counts. And if you really listen to the person across from you, you will be doing the right thing. 

Christy references a few resources if you’re looking to support someone in their grief, or if you are grieving yourself. Those resources are linked on our website, www. sorryforyourlosspod .com 

Thanks a million to Christy!

What we mentioned in this episode of Sorry For Your Loss Podcast:

I’m Sorry, and I’m Here For You — An Interview with Greg | Talking About Grief with Friends

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I'm Sorry, and I'm Here For You — An Interview with Greg | Talking About Grief with Friends
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I sat down with my friend Greg, who I may or may not have coerced into being on this podcast after may or may not have had one or two or several pints between us.

The topic came up at all because I had made a “YOUR MOM!” joke. Greg’s response was perfect, he effortlessly and emphatically yelled back, “MY MOM’S DEAD!” 

I was momentarily caught off guard, and then replied, “YOU SHOULD BE ON MY PODCAST!” 

Which is maybe not the best response?

But as I’m learning about grief, and how to talk to people about their grief, I’ve learned it’s not actually a terrible response either! However it may rank on the appropriate-ness scale, Greg kindly agreed to be one of my first interviews.

Greg has some really great things to say about his experience with grief — his mother and father both died before he was 40 — and how it’s affected him since. And, he has insight about how you can support friends and coworkers in their moments of grief and beyond. 

You Grieve All The Time, Every Day – An Interview with Kelly | Talking About Grief with Friends

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You Grieve All The Time, Every Day - An Interview with Kelly | Talking About Grief with Friends
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Hi again listeners, here is EPISODE TWO! of Sorry For Your Loss the podcast.

I hope that you have in your life friends who are as good to you as the two women in this podcast have been to me. Kelly, Holly, and I have been friends since I was a freshman in college which is … plenty … of years ago by now. So, we’re close. At the beginning you’ll hear them teasing me about my British vocab in a way only long-standing friends can. And it’s been amazing to have their friendship over these years of drama and mundanity that life throws at you in your 20s and 30s!

I also want to shout out to both of them because this entire podcast would most likely not have come to fruition without both of them. We heard from Holly in Episode One, she was the original catalyst. And when I told Kelly about the idea, she was immediately supportive and enthusiastic. She wholeheartedly agreed to be interviewed, really jumped at the idea. Thanks, Kelly!!

The three of us are talking in this episode about Kelly’s mom, Nancy, who died right at the end of college. Nancy had colon cancer, and it was a long process, with bouts of health and decline, so Kelly was able to reflect about what was happening when it was happening, and even more in the years since. We discuss how she’s felt as she moved through milestones – getting married, having kids, birthdays, etc – without her mom, and how simple it is to offer support.

We’re a bit of a mess at the beginning because I hadn’t worked out how to introduce a podcast with more than two people! So please forgive a few giggles and false starts. The content gets really good, just stick with us!

What we mentioned in this episode of Sorry For Your Loss:

What Would Ernie Do? – An Interview with Holly | Talking About Grief with Friends

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What Would Ernie Do? - An Interview with Holly | Talking About Grief with Friends
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Hello and welcome to the first episode of Sorry For Your Loss podcast. Thanks for listening!

As mentioned in the previous post, this podcast idea came out of Holly and my’s shared experience with not understanding what to do after her dad died. So I’m really proud for this first episode to be an interview with her about her dad, Ernie.

We cover a whole range of topics, including how suicide changed her grieving process, how she handles conversations differently after losing a parent, how to listen when someone is grieving, and how you can’t get wrapped up in the “could haves” following the death of a loved one.

What we mentioned in this episode of Sorry For Your Loss:

Grief comes in waves, a comment from Reddit user u/GSnow on the thread, “My friend just died. I don’t know what to do.

Grief Dinners – find a table or start a dinner in a city near you via The Dinner Party

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals. 1-800-273-8255

Introduction to Sorry For Your Loss | Talking About Grief with Friends

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Introduction to Sorry For Your Loss | Talking About Grief with Friends
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We have all been in a situation where we clam up after a friend tells us someone they love has died. Many of us realize that’s the wrong reaction, but how do you know what to say to someone who is grieving?

Meet Ellen and Holly, two friends whose shared experiences illustrate both sides to this story. When Holly’s dad died, and Ellen didn’t know what to say, they both realized… that’s kinda weird.

This podcast was created out of several conversations they shared since that realization.

Sorry For Your Loss podcast hosts Ellen (left) and Holly